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Discussion in 'Sidewinders Bar & Grille' started by ocean, Oct 7, 2017.
Try honesty, that is what friends do
I don't want to say bad things, but if you reversed the roles and were treating a friend this way and walking all over him you would be thinking the guy is an idiot and you wouldn't respect him. Well, this is what he thinks of you. He is using you, you've done your best and now it's time to move on.
Yeah Ocean sorry
In the long run cutting your friend off will likely help him.
It may force him to deal with the root cause of his problems as opposed to patching up the leaks with your cash & good will.
You need to find another jam partner!
All the above posts say to drop the guy. If he was indeed one of my best friends I might try to help him. However, Im not made if money and couldnt afford to pay his insurance etc. So, assuming he is a good friend going thru a rough patch Id continue jamming but say youre unable to continue helping financially.
If he is just a jamming partner Id probably move on.
No never happened .. avoiding confrontation I Guess.
I'm afraid that I've learned from hard experience (despite being warned when I was young) that once you start lending money to friends, they tend to keep asking to borrow more. And because it's difficult to ask friends to repay their debt to you, you tend not to get it back. And resentment sets in....
"Never a borrower or a lender be" is what I was taught as a lad. It's true, sadly.
^This. It benefits nobody in the long run.
I once had an acquaintance who was like that. He'd borrow £10, and pay it back. Then again. Then it became £20 and he'd pay it back after a while. Then again. Then he came to me for £40, and I knew I would not get it back. I gladly gave him it, and mentally said goodbye to him, a pest.
Quit smoking. Problem solved.
...answering the phone etc. Can you assign his # with a special greeting "I'm not your parents...and I don't want to be..."? I went through this with a neighbor not too long ago.
Ocean... Do you live in the greater Seattle area? If so I am an employed non-smoker, and I don't mind jamming once in a while.
No unfortunately I don't.
Tell him you can help him financially by offering to buy his gear, then sell it when you fall on your own 'hard times'.
He can't call you to mooch and jam if he doesn't have gear