I shared a personal experience. That's all it was and not a message on the evils of alcohol. I used to rather enjoy it when I could start and stop based on my own will power. Now that I have that back I just find I don't enjoy it as much as I did. It's a forum. We all share stories based upon personal experiences about many things. To be honest I never gave much thought to being misinterpreted because I'm not the judgemental sort or an AA "Big Book" thumper evangelist type. I have enough challenges living my own life so I sure as hell don't want to try telling someone else how to live theirs. Any comments I make are strictly conversational so take from them what you will but I'm surely not scolding anyone about drinking. And I am very sorry to hear about your brother in law. For some the end never comes before death and that's sad. I've also lost friends and family to addictions and I'm always there to help those who are seriously trying to get well but I don't preach abstinence here or anywhere else and that's the truth.