Hurt, broken, empty, and alone...

Discussion in 'Sidewinders Bar & Grille' started by Ebidis, Jun 18, 2020.

  1. Dadocaster

    Dadocaster Dr. Stratster

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    Hell, I feel that and my kid has not even left yet. I think I am doing ok allowing him to grow up but I miss my little guy.
     
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    Dadocaster Dr. Stratster

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    Hell, I feel that and my kid has not even left yet. I think I am doing ok allowing him to grow up but I miss my little guy.
     
  3. gofmusic

    gofmusic Senior Stratmaster

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    This indeed, jokes aside. Theres always sth to look forward to... just need to find it, and hang in there while the storm crashes at your door knowing it shall pass.

    On the other hand, is really hard to focus on that songs message when every effing whistled part is out of time, it gave me OCD. Lol.
     
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  4. Ebidis

    Ebidis Providing the world with flat bends since 1985

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    I get it. They grow up, and they leave home.

    We just hope that we taught them well, and they will be ok.

    I am very proud of him, and the young man he has become... but right now I'm a basket case LOL
     
  5. Ebidis

    Ebidis Providing the world with flat bends since 1985

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    I think you did ok with Boyo. :thumb:
     
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  6. jtoomuch

    jtoomuch Senior Stratmaster Silver Member

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    hang in there, brother.
     
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  7. Bob the builder

    Bob the builder Most Honored Senior Member

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    Ain't you been lookin for a little alone time for the last 18-20 years?
    Enjoy it while you can.... They come back





    Oh yeah. And at least you don't look like @heltershelton
     
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    Nadnitram Most Honored Senior Member

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    Remember what it feels like to break up with somebody you cared deeply about. Remember what it feels like when a loved one passes away. The intensity of the anguish = the intensity of the love. And you know from experience that the pain never completely goes away, but it eventually dulls enough to become manageable.

    In this case, unlike with a breakup or a death, your son (can we call him Boybidis?) is still around and still wants to see you. So you've got that.

    Meanwhile, start remodeling the basement into an apartment for him. He'll be 30 before you know it!
     
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    smithstrato Senior Stratmaster

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    Storms come and go .. You have awesome rain gear right here at ST.
    Seems we all get it from time to time.
    I think its called the blues
     
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    Cerb Anti conformist reformist

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    Only because I like you.
     
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    simoncroft Dr. Stratster Silver Member

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    I hate to see anyone suffering, whatever the cause, but Steely Dan can explain this better than me...

     
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    @Ebidis. And you might like this one, because the infectious groove and dryly witty lyrics always make me feel better. :)

     
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  13. sam_in_cali

    sam_in_cali Scream for me Strat-Talk! Silver Member

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    We went through all the emotions after our oldest left for the Navy. My wife was a wreck so I kinda had to bottle up my emotions and be strong and supportive for her. The feelings you have are completely normal and they come at you all at once so it gets confusing. I'm not sure how basic training and tech school are for the USAF (been a looong time, lol) but the Navy had a support system set up once the sailors were assigned to a ship so the parents back home could reach out to each other and support each other during their kids' deployments. My wife has made some life-long friends from that group. Even if that's not an option, there a bunch of us here you can always reach out to :thumb:
     
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  14. Seamus OReally

    Seamus OReally Buried alive in the blues Gold Supporting Member

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    “In this sad world of ours, sorrow comes to all; and, to the young, it comes with bitterest agony, because it takes them unawares. The older have learned to ever expect it. I am anxious to afford some alleviation of your present distress. Perfect relief is not possible, except with time. You can not now realize that you will ever feel better. Is not this so? And yet it is a mistake. You are sure to be happy again. To know this, which is certainly true, will make you some less miserable now. I have had experience enough to know what I say; and you need only to believe it, to feel better at once.”

    - Abraham Lincoln
     
  15. Dadocaster

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    ...when the demon is at your door in the morning he won't be there no more...
     
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    It's necessary to feel and acknowledge your own sadness. Even wallow in it. Otherwise it will rear it's ugly head unchecked. Don't feel bad about needing to feel this way. Stay human. Wish you the best.

     
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    I broke my back a couple a years ago shortly after my wife had been diagnosed with two different types of cancer at the same time - one stage four.
    It would have been easy to be down, and at times we were and that's ok, but I saw people that had it even worse. Didn't make our situation any better, but it could have been worse.

    We are both doing much better these days, and I hope you will be soon!
     
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    Sometimes the best way thru is sink in to it until the sun comes up and come up it will. Forever people have gone to song to feel their way thru their pain. Write all you feel in a song you already have a hell of a title.
     
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