In Ben We Trust!

Abby says she hopes you will stay, and so do I.

 

I think it's pretty apparent who made the ridiculous complaint that started all this. Don't think I've even seen them add anything substantive here. Mostly just snotty remarks.

 

Does a thread have to be reported to get deleted? I'm having a hard time imagining someone reading Ben's post, reaching out in a time of pain, and then hitting "report" on it.

 

Yeah. You'd think. But there are always those who have so little power or influence in their own life that they are obsessed with enforcing "rules" against others, warranted or not. Has nothing to do with the underlying issue really. Merely a tool to puff up their own flaccid egos.

 

You wouldn't be very surprised to realize that lately someone has been in a cop neurosis around here

 

Hugs from Lumbergh and Winston:

 

Lily sends her best too.


Me too, but I'm ugly so no pic.

 

It honestly seems pretty weird. Usually the mods (I think) do a great job keeping things from getting ugly, and are quick to get rid of posts that are against the (again I think) very reasonable edicts against religion or politics.

But...this??

Ben seems like an extraordinarily sweet young man. I've never once seen him post anything remotely offensive. He wasn't espousing a political view, or taking a religious position. He was asking for some support from his online buddies (and I'd be pleased if I could count myself as one of those), because he lost a dear friend tragically and was in emotional pain. He mentioned the way she died. That's all.

I would assume that the rule against threads about suicide are more along the lines of not wanting people to threaten suicide, or advocate suicide (not that there's a ton of people staking out that position, thankfully.)

So, this seems like a mystery. If it was the word suicide, couldn't the mods have just deleted the word? This just seems strange. Could it be the asking for prayers? Which, I consider along the lines of "please keep me in your thoughts" or "Please wish me the best through this tough time." Again, nothing offensive there.

Ben's a good guy and I hope he sticks around.

 

it seems that more discretion should have been used on this one, especially considering the guy who posted it, not a trouble-maker, in fact, a good dude...

oh, and as for adhering to the guidelines to this thread:

 

After nap time , these two will be right behind ya, buddy!

 

I'm still relatively new on this site so I haven't had a chance to get to know who's who.

In another thread about deleted posts I mentioned that I'm not a fan of a "P.C." world & what has happened to Ben is part of why.

He's now been made to feel wrong for having his own thoughts, feelings, & problems because someone else may have different thoughts, feelings & problems.

I'm sure the site has liability reasons for not allowing such topics to be discussed. I also know that there are sites specifically geared towards those topics.

However, this is the site that has our online peers. People who are connected by more positive things but still have valid experience & insight.

Instead of everyone feeling that they can share their thoughts, feelings & problems thus presenting an opportunity for open discussion there is one less way to get through something.

I have worked through my own issues a long time ago. At that time I was not on any forums of any kind. It would have been nice to have been able to reach out to anyone. There are some situations where you just need to vent & some where you don't need judgement of someone you are close to in real life.

Now I'm not suggesting this site is a legitimate alternative to actual therapy. I'd like to think most of us would include a suggestion to seek professional help when dealing with serious issues.

That being said just talking about what's on your mind & discovering other people (like you) have faced similar issues & come out ok-ish is of great comfort.

 

Daisy wants you to stick around Ben.

 

I'm in........................

 

But, I've been using Louis Tully for sooooo long. How could I possibly ...

 

I'm in. Profile pic changed to Miss Phoebe & Oliver. Please don't cut us loose, Ben!

 

What are you blathering on about now you bloated windbag?

How's that for love and support?