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Discussion in 'Sidewinders Bar & Grille' started by stevierayfan91, Sep 5, 2019.
I'm a yank my irish goes about as far as Happy Birthday, and Sláinte
I'm a Dubliner and I wish I'd never got involved at all!
Clearly I've got involved in a conversation between friends that I should have stayed out of. If I have caused any offence, then of course I apologise. But I do reckon that Cicereo is the man to study.
Ben, nothing against reading some books but I'd sign up for Toastmasters. That is designed to get you out of your shell and build confidence speaking in front of groups of people. That confidence can then lead to better working relationships in other settings as well.
Thank you for some thoughts , buddies.
I appreciate that you wished could reccomend something.
None taken, it's probably been a misunderstanding. I don't think Cicero falls out of this topic but I think there are better starter books, Cicero is more advanced, at least to me I can't speak on Ben's behalf.
I would like to help if I can, so it would be good to understand what Ben is trying to achieve and why?
I would say I am trying to be reduced shyness , and more confident.
Since I work with public , I thought studying some rhetorical communication might be a start ?
See his answer
The most important thing is not to focus on how you communicate but WHAT you communicate. No amount of style will ever better substance. I learned this lesson having worked for Accenture for twenty years. Know your subject, know what you want to achieve and plan your communications around that. Plan your talk around there topics. 1 : What are we trying to achieve? 2: How can we achieve this? 3: How do we make this happen?
Forget rhetoric, if you have the answers to these three questions, then you don't need it.
Positive attitude and positive reinforcement is where it's at I think. I think the book I said would help with that, it gives you tools to recognize where you can use your strengths and use positive reinforcement to get to what you want out of people. That will also help build you confidence.
After reading a certain string of comments here I tried something new. I just used the “ignore user” feature. I always considered it a “burying your head in the sand” measure, but I have to say it really makes the board better.
Carry on, I’m just lurking
Whatchu mean I need an attitude adjustment?
@Guy Named Sue
I ordered copy of Aubrey Daniels book Bringing Out The Best In People.
I had a very rough year this past one, due to how shy am.
So I am trying to learn and reach improvements as able.
That is very admirable of you, not many people would put the time and effort to work on improving themselves. Worth to look into the material I sent to you via pm also.
Best of luck to you buddy, anything you need you know where to find me.
Good question! My first degree/ major was Communication. Between the dictionary for spelling, and increasing your vocabulary, you’ll have a good start.
Since about 18, or 19, I’ve considered myself a student of rhetoric. Try working on learning different words that have the same meaning, and different ways of communicating the same thought/ idea.