Sixstringer107
Senior Stratmaster
We have a member that just found out he has lymphoma and is having a lump removed from under his arm on Monday, so we've put things on hold for now. Health is #1.
My band is always having some kind of trouble.
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stratblast
Strat-O-Master
You are correct in your answer. As I felt the same way. I always knew the lyrics by heart to any song I had to sing. I never used lyric sheets. I did not like the idea of him using a music stand on stage. I once told him I thought it looked tacky. But he was adamant about using it. Most of the tunes he grew up with I felt he should have already known thw words. I think it acted as a security blanket for him.
Quikstyl
Senior Stratmaster
Well, my band had a hard time finding the stage at our last gig...
stratblast
Strat-O-Master
We had a pet dog who ended up getting twisted up in the curtain cord and strangled herself one Saturday even I was at practice my wife and kids were at the movies. My kids grew up without me in their lives pretty much. Due to rehearsals and gigs. I was away a lot of the time and when I was home I practiced.
If one does not mind seeing their family grow old without them in their lives. Go for it. That’s your reward.
stratblast
Strat-O-Master
Sorry that post was meant for dadocaster.
I could have written the same post about mine
Dadocaster
Dr. Stratster
Old topic, but still a topic....
My only son is 20, he mom divorced me when he was 2, the young man is in the jazz studies program at a major university and gigs a hell of a lot more than I do. I live in a house with a bunch of music gear and a geriatric cat. The boy is about 200 miles away most of the time. Never did music take away from regular life, it was always the other way around.
stratblast
Strat-O-Master
I understand. My son grew up playing guitar. Probably like yours but … He never majored in music. He is a teacher in Arizona Teaching high school math and Philosophy. Occasionally he plays guitar in front of his students. He has some videos on you tube doing so. But he is more into finger picking on his Taylor. I
Have some acoustics but very rarely play them.
As far as regular life taking away from music? I can see where this can happen …. especially if music is like a profession but for me it was just 2 to 3 weekend gigs a month for years. Lucky to make 60 bucks each time. More of a hobby with me. And thr night my wife died in 2015 our band was planning to audition a bass player …. I had to call them up to tell them I couldn’t make it and I felt guilty about it. At least most of the band showed up at her funeral though. So that was nice of them.
amstratnut
Peace thru Music.
Im herding 8 other cats. Im having a hard time being sympathetic. I can sure relate though.
Our bass player is retired so he travels a lot. Gone for months each summer
When he is home, he is also in about 4 other bands.
After years of nagging my son to get a job, he got one where he mosly works nights in addition to every other weekend. So he has to miss a ton of rehearsals.
The others, for the most part, have settled on Sunday morning rehearsals, assuming they are in town.
Booking a gig is one thing. Hoping and praying people will be avaiable for one or two rehearsals is another.
I wasted 10 years in a band wondering why we weren't playing out more than we did when the lead singer/founder finally confessed he really didn't like playing out that much. He said he had more fun just jamming with us in his garage than playing in front of people.
I wish I had those 10 years back....
I wish I had those 10 years back....
Dadocaster
Dr. Stratster
....and ya know, there is a place for that. Some want to play out a lot and jam a little, some want to play out a little and jam a lot. Just a matter of actually telling the other band members.
Yeah. I will never "jam" with him again. Being forthcoming was never his forte I have learned.
Dadocaster
Dr. Stratster
I brag on my current band, we don't march lockstep but we seem to see things similarly and want the same things. Hopefully, we can play more when spring rolls around, and have fun through summer, and release more songs.
Yeah our current band has been on hiatus since Oct. Our bass player's wife has had some medical issues they have been trying to sort out so we decided to take a break through the holidays. It's pretty tough to get everyone on the same page from mid-November through January anyway. I thought we would be practicing again already. And maybe they are without me haha.
Dadocaster
Dr. Stratster
We have used the time to write and record and start releasing original songs. Will continue that for a while.
Diamond_Dave
Strat-O-Master
Del Paxton: Ain't no way to keep a band together. Bands come and go. You got to keep on playin', no matter with who. You guys any good?
Guy: Yeah. Yeah, man, we got--Jimmy and Lenny and me and...Faye--We got something snappy. Really think we do.
Del: I'm sure you do, but sooner or later, something makes you crazy: Money, women, the road. Hell, man, just time.
Guy: Well, we've only been together for two months.
Del: Some bands i been with, that's two months too long.
Guy: Yeah. Yeah, man, we got--Jimmy and Lenny and me and...Faye--We got something snappy. Really think we do.
Del: I'm sure you do, but sooner or later, something makes you crazy: Money, women, the road. Hell, man, just time.
Guy: Well, we've only been together for two months.
Del: Some bands i been with, that's two months too long.
frank52387
Strat-O-Master
I was/am a firm believer that you should have an outside ear mix your songs. They hear things with no attachment to a particular instrument just for the betterment of the song.
With regards to moving on, maybe can shift gears towards things that band members can do while separate like record from home or promote stuff.
Hanson
Senior Stratmaster
Thanks for the suggestions Frank.
The album is actually done, mixed and ready for release on February 17th. It sounds great and is the best of the 4 albums to date. That’s the good news.
The bad news, and this has been covered in a different thread, the band member who seemed uninterested has quit. Confronted, he said he wasn’t interested in doing this anymore and has felt that way for sometime. He was surprised we had not pressed him on this earlier; almost as if he wanted to be confronted into quitting.
It’s a shame because he is a very talented musician and songwriter. Probably the best guitarist in the band; certainly the best at playing lead guitar. Whe got the news last weekend and we have moved on. We will continue without him.
Dadocaster
Dr. Stratster
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Dadocaster
Dr. Stratster
Well, band is not having troubles now as it is no longer a band. Oh well.
