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Discussion in 'Bands on the Run' started by Seamus OReally, Sep 10, 2019.

  1. Seamus OReally

    Seamus OReally Strat-O-Master Silver Member

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    Well, after a year of practice and two gigs, my band just kind of stopped breathing. The bass player is bored, our lead singer can’t get herself together, we were cancelling rehearsal every week (a PITA for me because I cook dinner for the band), until this last one, before which our singer announced that it would probably be best if we just went on hiatus until she cooks up some gigs. I have no confidence this will happen. Lisa says it’s dead and we just haven’t had a funeral yet. Crap... that band was big fun for me. I’m bummed.
     
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    What sort of stuff did you play?
    Is there any shareable evidence?
     
  3. GuitarPix

    GuitarPix Senior Stratmaster

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    Been there, done that. Yes, it sucks.

    Time for you to find another project.
     
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    BallisticSquid Senior Stratmaster

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    Well that sucks!

    Bands can be a PITA!
     
  5. midwestfisherma

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    Well that sucks!
     
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  6. BallisticSquid

    BallisticSquid Senior Stratmaster

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    You can say that again ;).
     
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    Malurkey Senior Stratmaster

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    :(
     
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  8. Seamus OReally

    Seamus OReally Strat-O-Master Silver Member

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    We play blues, swing, jumpin’ jive, torch songs. Open a set with “So What,” and end with “Black Friday.”
     
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    I’m hoping you can find some other musicians to play with that will inspire you !
    Sometimes change is good Seamus.
     
  10. Mansonienne

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    Oh no! Sorry to hear that. I hope you find some others to play with if this one can't be resuscitated.
     
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  11. Seamus OReally

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    Well, I'm determined to play this material... maybe the drummer and the bass player would want to continue without the singer. I'd like to replace her with a keyboard player and get a Robben Ford and the Blue Line thing going..
     
  12. heltershelton

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    Man that does suck.
    But everything comes to an end eventually.
    Its up to you to put yourself in another situation that you want to be in.
    You may find it, or you may have to create it.
    The bottom line is.....you are a musician, and you must play....just like a vampire must feed.
     
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    I think this is a good idea. If the singer was continuously cancelling rehearsals, I’m not surprised the rest of the band was withering, so to speak. Been there and had a singer with a similar problem. The drummer, bass and I moved on and formed a new band with another singer. We took the opportunity to rejig our setlist while we were at it. It was a win.
     
  14. DeMelo

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    Don’t worry. Hang out with other musicians and other projects will happen!
     
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    Pare back to the ones that are actually into it. Reform on the basis that you will find the others you need to complete what those of you left, actually agree you want to do together. It will strengthen you as a band. A year from now you might look back and see this as the birth of something so much better.
     
  16. Seamus OReally

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    This is good advice. I am taking your words to heart, gentlemen. Thanks for the thoughtful responses.
     
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    Hope you can cook up something even tastier to you, and will have a new project.
     
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    I like that idea
     
  19. DeMelo

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    My band has been on the road for a handful of years and we’ve had to make adjustments and replace members.

    It’s part of life.
     
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  20. Seamus OReally

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    Well, this a casual thing... we’re ready to play the wineries and private parties... swingy, low-key fun that gets home by 10. I’m 63, semiretired, and I’m in it for the fun, which has been prodigious with these guys. I want to keep the songs going.
     
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