Parents, and Challenges

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  1. Namelyguitar

    Namelyguitar Most Honored Senior Member Silver Member

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    The parents enjoyed good health for a long time, and after the holidays, things became more challenging with Dad in the hospital for surgery closer to New Years. It was fun seeing them mostly healthy until their mid-80's age. They've been living on their own and taking vacations through most of last last year.

    Times, they are a changin'.
     
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    Omar ✪✪ Miserable Old Curmudgeon ✪✪

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    I’m sorry to hear that, brother. I hope your Dad gets well very soon! Positive thoughts and prayers his way.
     
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    Sorry to hear that. My mom turns 80 this year and so far is in good health and very active. But I worry about that changing, and I live an ocean + a continent away....
     
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    Hopefully you're parents have a return to good health.
    Health issues are tough to deal with, especially as we age, but with modern medicine and healthy lifestyle choices, people are living longer healthier lives than ever before.
     
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    AncientAx Still hacking ....

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    It’s the circle of life ..... best wishes to your parents !
     
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    Thrup'ny Bit Grand Master Curmudgeon

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    I hope your dad recovers quickly.

    I hope that none of you have to deal with Alzheimer's. Everything else seems like a walk in the park.
     
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    My nan on my mums side had dementia absolutely heart breaking to deal with. Wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy.
     
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    Lost both my parents young, Dad was 53 (in 86) and Mom 63 (in 97). Miss them a lot.
     
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    Thrup'ny Bit Grand Master Curmudgeon

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    My mother in law aka "the daft old bat" doesn't know what time of day it is, it's driving all the family to distraction trying to keep her safe and take care of her.
     
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    Stratwrangler Senior Stratmaster

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    I know it becomes all consuming wouldnt have been so bad if she had been happy crazy if you know what I mean but nan got really aggressive and couldn't remember any of us and before she was in a home would disappear on you as soon as your back was turned , she was only short so we had to put high locks on all the doors but then she would just get angry, sounds harsh but it was a blessing for her when she passed , it destroyed my mum going through it and she worries she's going to go the sane route , no signs yet though thankfully.
     
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    I become you

    We become them

    They become us.
     
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    Namelyguitar Most Honored Senior Member Silver Member

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    Thanks for the kind words!

    In the U.S., we have rehabilitation (rehab) facilities as a transition toward getting well- that often look very similar to hospital rooms in a separate business location. He’s escaped the hospital for a rehab. :thumb:

    Dad may stay there for at least a month, charge up, workout/ PT. Thankfully, he has a good attitude about the process. He is former military, and actually likes hospital and rehab food! :whistling:
     
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    I took care of my mom (dementia), I don't know how you feel about it, or if their insurance will cover it, but you can recover at home (depends how hurt you are of course) and they send PT and other agencies to the home.

    Your dad might be fine there at the hospital, my mom wanted to be at home, food for thought.
    Also review all the services that might be available for them, the doctors can tell you what's available.