When you learn that he/she is crazy...learning to run.

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  1. LPBlue

    LPBlue "That Guy", again...dammit!

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    After a 6 month rekindling of an old flame, the wick is pinched out. I value my sanity more than her company. Feelings are still intact but not worth it to me.

    People react in different ways...she is a screamer if upset. For the crime of nodding off in bed during the night during a movie, I am met with , "What are you doing? You are not paying attention to the movie" Absurd

    It would seem that if I do not present the mood/"energy" she wants to see then she attacks." You just don't get it do you?" " You need to leave right now" and i get to hear the meltdown after I close the door on my way out. Intimacy= high alert anxiety attack and I have no idea given that she has been in psychotherapy for 35yrs and I have not...it must make her a doctor in her mind. I am told what my problems are and how to fix them.

    See ya, sucks to be ya. This is the gal who picked out the 335 I bought, me because I liked it, she because she liked the way it looks.
     
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    Stratoman10 Dr. Stratster Silver Member

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    After a stroke you have to deal with that ? Oh hell no. Get out and don't look back
     
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    Seamus OReally Buried alive in the blues Gold Supporting Member

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    Someone in therapy that long isn’t getting better at anything but defending their nueroses.
     
  4. LPBlue

    LPBlue "That Guy", again...dammit!

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    This one has a headfull.
     
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    Super nutbar, run away as fast as you can, forever......if 35 years of therapy STILL leave her in this state, there is no hope, she is not getting better, probably worse....everything is everyone else's fault.....and she is the most important person to everyone she knows...
     
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    Deafsoundguy Strat-o-hackster Silver Member

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    Wow! How fast can you run? That’s psycho stalker stuff right there. :eek:
     
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    Nadnitram Most Honored Senior Member

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    Did you "accidentally" leave a forwarding address in Switzerland?
     
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    LPBlue "That Guy", again...dammit!

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    Textbook sosciopath, I've known her 30yrs and nothing has changed..."see what you made me do?"
     
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    You really, really do not need this. I had a relationship with a woman who would accuse me of things – typically related to infidelity – that not only I didn't do, but I could not possibly have done. Violent arguments in the middle of the night over nothing. Forget how good the sex is (or isn't, not for us to know), just distance yourself by every means possible.
     
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    Hey LP, it's been a while, how ya do'n!?
    From what I see here, I'd say 'better than yesterday' might be accurate.

    Sorry for your loss.
     
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    IMHO, rekindling an old flame is the hardest thing to do. You split up for good reasons in the first place, now you're going through them again. Exhausting and deflating.
     
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    I would argue she is the way she is because of that, look at Lena Dunham... in therapy her entire life.

    Any ways **** that, be alone or get a different friend.
     
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    So you've known about her crazy behavior for 30 years, yet you go back for more and then complain about it? Sorry,your fault.
     
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    “You wreck me, baby”
     
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    Paperback Rocker Do it or screw it.

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    You just don't get it, do you?

    JK get the hell outta dodge
     
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    I had an ex try to tell me I'd never find another woman like her during a break-up.

    I said "That's the point."
     
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    So true.
     
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    Excellent :thumb:
     
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    I've been on both sides. Chronic long term depression is real. I did nothing wrong. Vows mean sh!t.

    Post divorce, it was one crazy topped by the next.

    At least the last crazy had no kiddos for me to potentially help pay for. Was a crazy fun summer ride.
     
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    T Bone Slort "Was you ever bit by a dead bee?" Silver Member

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    Sorry to hear things didn't work out JR, best to get while the getting is good.
     
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